A polite or pleasant approach is more effective than rudeness or unpleasantness in dealing with people; sometimes used to recommend ingratiating behavior: “Ask his advice frequently,and thank him profusely for his wisdom and guidance. Remember that old adage‘You can catch more ﬂies with honey than with vinegar’” (Washington Post,1996). The proverb was ﬁrst recorded in 1666 in G. Torriano’s
The word honey is sometimes replaced by sugar or molasses.
Variant of this proverb: honey catchesmore ﬂies than vinegar.